Story by Vincent mageto,
I know you are so glued and bonded in love with that person, you can't go a day without fantasying about them, you feel butterflies in your stomach, Cool. It's a good thing to be in love, BUT....No matter how love stricken you are, don't ever give a person an impression that you can't live without them.
Don't ever make them feel you are miserable and hopeless without them.Don't make them think if they leave you, you'll never be happy again. No matter the love, don't lose your independence in a relationship because that is the beginning of manipulation.
When you give people the idea that you are miserable without them, automatically they consider you inferior and you become less attractive to them. They'll so exploit your vulnerability, mess you up emotionally & turn you into a prey most especially if they are the wrong person for you. That's why a lot of you are so madly in love with someone, but you hate the fact that you love them so much. You feel that you are so used. Yes!!! It's because you gave them a clue that life without them is death.
It's a good thing to express love, but don't express it in a foolish way. I have always had that perfect hopeless romantic and idealistic kind of love, but I had to mix it with realistic love, and that was when I understood the need for balance in love many years ago. I have come to the realization that love is logical too.
Stop demeaning yourself before the one you love by saying you will die if they breakup with you. That statement brings down your worth so much before them.
Listen carefully, instead of shouting how you'll die if eventually your partner walks away, make them understand that you love them and if peradventure they leave you, you'll heal, move on and still live a better life.
Stop idolising people or they'll control you, your happiness and make a mess of you!
Most people don't value folks that are obsessed about them. A person will only value you when you give them a little hint that you are enough on your own and staying around them isn't a need but just a want.
Stop needing people than you need yourself, Need yourself and want other people!
This is why most people fail in love because they so forget their independence, forgetting that their significant other is human and is prone to take advantage of their dependence on them.
Love with your brain!
Your feelings don't operate on its own, the mistake we make is to submit to our feelings.
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